I don't have a similar story, but do have some comments.
It's not just addictive to men, but women, too. But it's good that you discovered the addictive nature of pornography. There are many studies that show that [censored] addiction can be treated with behavioral modification. Have you sought professional counseling to see if it could be helpful?
My fiancee uses [censored] quite often and I find that it causes me to have a negative view of myself when I find out that he's been looking at it, even though I look at [censored] probably more often than him. Still, it's unsettling to see the type of "smut" that people look at when they think they aren't being watched. Ultimately, your desire to look at [censored] isn't a knock on her....it actually has nothing to do with her. But that's hard to us ladies to understand.