I am in the exact situation as you are. My STBX has refused to sign a QCD for over 9 months, and we have a foreclosure conference at the courthouse next week. I made a last minute attempt to get help from a housing counseling agency, but they can't do anything for me without the QCD, either. I currently have primary physical, and she gets every other weekend plus Wednesdays. I know she is doing this to try to get more custody once we lose our house. She abandoned us (myself and 3 children) almost a year ago, and didn't care about custody until I was awarded child support this past August. Wont the judge see through all of her games?