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#767204 - 04/24/14 06:54 PM 4th Marriage
Otis1352 Offline

journeyman

Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 74
Loc: Kingwood, Texas
My child came home yesterday telling me my ex is planning on getting married to her 1st husband (I was here 3rd)and he is planning on moving to Houston with her and my daughter. They originally were planning on getting married and her/ my daughter moving to Dallas, but she talked to an attorney and was told she would more than likely not be able to move with the child. My question is this. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? I know I cannot stop the marriage but I feel it is not a good environment for my daughter. This would be the 4th marriage for both of them. I can prove he cheated on my ex while they were married, I can prove he committed her to a mental institution while they were married, and I can prove they had an affair while he was still married to his 3rd wife. He also has a 10 yr old son that my ex has not been able to meet. We have an open custody case from 2 years ago. In that case her attorney had requested full psychiatric evaluations on both of us. I would also want a family study done before my daughter be allowed to live in this situation. I am just curious what if anything can be done. I have not had a chance to speak to my attorney.

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#767205 - 04/25/14 06:43 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: Otis1352]
javajunkiee Offline
Carpal \'Tunnel

Registered: 06/02/08
Posts: 3200
Loc: SC
None of the affair nonsense matters to stopping your child from moving away. If you have a clause in your custody agreement that both parents must reside in a certain area or proximity to one another, then she would have to file her intent to relocate. When she does that you file your disagreement with your daughter relocating and your intent to seek sole physical custody.

SHE can move, but unless you consent, or she can prove you are an uninvolved or unfit parent, your daughter stays put.

If she is granted the move away with your daughter, you have your parenting time adjusted and have your ex pay all of the transportation costs associated with you seeing your daughter for that parenting time. She moved - you shouldn't have to pay the costs because of that.
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#767206 - 04/28/14 07:34 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: javajunkiee]
Otis1352 Offline

journeyman

Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 74
Loc: Kingwood, Texas
I know I have a 99% chance of preventing her from moving to Dallas with my daughter. That is not the issue anymore. I am being told he is moving here. The question was what would be my chances of preventing my daughter from living in that situation. So yes, the affairs, 4th marriages, and all the other issues would come into play. She took my daughter to spend the night with this man while he was still living with his wife. He has a 10 year old son that my ex has not met in the 10 months they have dated yet, my daughter is exposed to this affair. How can that not play a role in the courts decision? She cannot prove me as an unfit parent. I watch my daughter every day after school and every other Saturday while my ex works, I have not missed one visitation in 5 years.

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#767207 - 04/29/14 12:09 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: Otis1352]
finz Offline
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Registered: 06/17/08
Posts: 6756
The actions that you have listed here don't make her an unfit parent, according to our legal system.

You can hope for primary placement/being the custodial parent. You can try to get a "no cohabitation" clause in the custody order so that neither of you can expose your dd to unmarried overnight guests/living together situtions, but once your ex marries this guy, they'd be allowed to live together and your dd would still be staying with them.

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#767208 - 04/29/14 05:12 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: finz]
Otis1352 Offline

journeyman

Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 74
Loc: Kingwood, Texas
I know it is hard to prove her an unfit mother in our court system. I just do not think it is a good environment for my daughter. When they were married the first time he had her committed to a mental hospital for her drinking and mental issues. I have my DD more than 50% of the time now. They are getting married. The only thing in question now is does my ex take me to court to try and move with dd to Dallas or does he move here. I think I would stand a chance of preventing DD from moving to Dallas. If he moves here, I think I would stand a chance of getting joint custody (50/50 time) at least. I doubt many people have experience with a 4th marriage. I wonder how the courts will view this. I would think the family study and counselor would have some issues with this.

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#767209 - 04/30/14 02:41 AM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: Otis1352]
finz Offline
Carpal \'Tunnel

Registered: 06/17/08
Posts: 6756
I don't think they would view a 4th marriage as hugely different than a 3rd marriage......and a 3rd time bride, previously committed to a mental institution, is who you chose to be the mother of your dd. Because of that, I believe that making a big deal of her 4th marriage could actually lower your credibility in the eyes of the court.

I have not been through the process yet myself, so my opinions are just that.

I would hope that you will be able to block your ex moving a great distance away as the CP of your dd because such a move would affect your dd's ability to keep the same close relationship to you, not because your ex is a nutjob.

If your ex's new (repeat) hubby moves to your area, I believe you should have 50/50, at least.......because that has been the status quo, not because you don't like your ex's choice for #4.

Is your ex currently also in Kingwood, TX ? How far is that from Dallas ?

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#767210 - 04/30/14 05:24 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: finz]
Otis1352 Offline

journeyman

Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 74
Loc: Kingwood, Texas
Dallas is almost 5 hours away. It is not so much the 4th marriage as it is some of the choices they have made that are not healthy for my DD. Like I stated, he has a 10 years old son that my ex still has not met. I believe they will get torn apart during the family study. There are many issues that will have to be dealt with that they have ignored for the most part. In the 10 months they have dated, they have done very little with my DD. For the most part she gets ignored when he is around. I should also mention this. This is her 3rd engagement is the last 4 years. She has a history of being a gold digger. I would think the judge and the family counselor would have issues with the affair and exposing an 8 yr. old child to it.I am not worried about her taking my DD to Dallas. I am 99% sure that will never happen. I worry about him moving here. It is not a good environment for my DD.

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#767211 - 04/30/14 07:51 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: Otis1352]
BeachBabeRN Offline
Carpal \'Tunnel

Registered: 01/17/06
Posts: 3236
Loc: VA for 21 years, NC forever!
Others have said this and I unfortunately have to agree with them -- none of the issues that you list above make any difference in the legal system. Your parenting time should absolutely be at a minimum 50%

Object to a move away.

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#767212 - 04/30/14 08:10 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: BeachBabeRN]
Otis1352 Offline

journeyman

Registered: 07/20/13
Posts: 74
Loc: Kingwood, Texas
That is a shame. It should matter! No wonder why things are so screwed up. Look what we are teaching our children. Once I figure out what her plan is, I will take her to court and see what happens. The only good thing for me is the judge we have is a fathers judge.

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#767213 - 05/01/14 05:54 PM Re: 4th Marriage [Re: Otis1352]
c_jane Offline
Pooh-Bah

Registered: 04/07/07
Posts: 1951
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
My Ex- moved a "lady" in and lived with her for 4 years and had my son exposed to that as well as HER stripper-daughter pregnant with 2 other kids by THREE different men. So there was Ex- & his live-in, my baby son which he had custody of, 2 kids 2 & 4 and the PG, unmarried daughter and the lawyer just shrugged his shoulders & said none of that was against the law.

It IS sad. And I was active in church, never even DATED or HAD another man around my son but yet HE had custody.
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