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#767958 - 07/31/14 07:11 PM RELATIONSHIPS, LIVING TOGETHER, AND CHILDREN
BigEasy Offline
journeyman

Registered: 10/17/05
Posts: 78
My domestic partner and I have been living together for the past seven years. We are both divorced.

Several times a year, she would visit her family in another state to see her children.

Now that they are getting older, they are beginning to visit us, which is great.

The problem is that when they leave to go back to their home state, she gets into this really bad depression; crying hysterically, not eating or sleeping, or sleeping all day and losing her enthusasim for anything.

I'm not sure how to manage this, but I am so in Love with Her and want to do something and not sure what.

I try to give her space, but then I think that may come across as unconcerned.

I don't need to ask what's wrong bacuse I already know. I'm just not sure what to do.

all advise is welcome and appreciated. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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#767959 - 08/01/14 05:01 AM Re: RELATIONSHIPS, LIVING TOGETHER, AND CHILDREN [Re: BigEasy]
finz Offline
Carpal \'Tunnel

Registered: 06/17/08
Posts: 6756
You can't "fix" her, but you can be there for her......by being extra supportive and loving if she was simply "a little down" after her kids left.

With what you describe, she may need professional help and medication to manage such profound depressive symptoms. Help get her to a professional who can evaluate her and help her plan to manage her post parenting time issues.

Did she move away from her children or did her previous partner/the CP move with the kids ? Is there anyway to move closer to her children ? How often does she talk/skype with them ?

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#767960 - 08/02/14 01:12 AM Re: RELATIONSHIPS, LIVING TOGETHER, AND CHILDREN [Re: finz]
BigEasy Offline
journeyman

Registered: 10/17/05
Posts: 78
Yeah,I realize that, butI'm in Love with Her.

Extreme situation. As I can best understand and based on my review of documentation, Her Ex did not like the fact that she had a career and was away from home so much.

He seemed very controlling, and used his means to have his entire family evectived. He then took her to court to demonstrate she could not support them. The court in that State agreed.

He is not back in the family home; two teens are still there.

She visits there,and they visit here. they talk and skype daily.

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#767961 - 08/06/14 09:24 AM Re: RELATIONSHIPS, LIVING TOGETHER, AND CHILDREN [Re: BigEasy]
finz Offline
Carpal \'Tunnel

Registered: 06/17/08
Posts: 6756
He had himself evicted too ? Or just his wife and the kids ? Was he working too ? I'm not following that part of the story.

How did it come to happen that she lives in a different state than her kids ?

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