I am new here as well as new to being a single mom (divorced in August after 16 years of marriage)of three children (ages 14,12,8).
I am faced with a parenting dilemma that I hope you can help me with.
Let me start by saying I was married to a wealthy man and my children have grown up very privileged (beautiful home, travel, etc.). I see my work as a parent now, while the kids are with me, to not let them to grow up to be entitled people but to be recognize that 99.9% of the world has less than they do and to live lives that are kind, compassionate and not $ focused.
Here is my problem (and this 'problem' is not a problem at all - this I recognize). I talked to a friend this past week and mentioned that I was really looking forward to the football play offs, how I had never been to a game and asked if he had any leads on tickets. He responded instantly that he had 2 and that they were mine! Of course, I got so excited for myself and instantly thought of taking my 12 year old son who is a rabid Pats fan (I would have to ask his dad to have him for the day). My BF, of 1 year, instantly grew angry with me and said that how self centered it was to ask my rich friends for tickets and then to consider taking my son to the game. What would this be teaching him except that these types of experiences are 'normal' that if you have $ and connections that you can have whatever you want? Wasn't that what I was trying to avoid? On top of that, I would be asking his father to take him away on his time for something incredibly extravagant and frivolous.
At the same time, my son's father and grandfather (my father) think that this is an incredible opportunity to spend time with him and have an experience that may never happen again in his lifetime. My BF thinks that I don't need to take him to this game to have a special time and that if I want to do something so big with him - that the two of us should plan for it, he should work for it and have it be something to look forward to.
I am completely torn about what to do. I will go to the game no matter what. I would love to have my little guy sitting next to me (he still has no idea about any of this) more than anything, but I also want to do what is right. I feel that the relationship that I have with my boyfriend is very strong and I want to support him but I am wondering if his point of view is extreme?
Thank you for any thoughts you could share. I know this is a frivolous issue and I appreciate you taking the time.