Greetings everyone who is now on this board. Back, many years ago now, I wrote on here - it seemed constantly. It was an outlet that I needed to try to make sense of what for me was senselessness. So many wonderful people on this board listened, replied, agreed -- and disagreed -- it was a comfort that I so needed then - just to have a voice, maybe. Divorce, when not wanted by you, seems to take away your voice - along with your heart and sometimes it even feels like your soul is being battered around.
Had to write today to wish all mothers that are on this website a happy day after Mother's Day. It has always been a difficult day for me. Even after so many years, I am still amazed how a man who helped you create life (in my own case, many) has no involvement or commentary for you. I try to find things merely "curious" now, rather than gut-wrenching as I once did.
I'm writing somewhat in the hopes that some old-timers still look on this site. Would love to hear from some of you and catch up on what is going on in your lives now.
If so, please send me a private message.
In the meantime, for all of you who have found this board, my very best wishes and prayers that you safely navigate through this very difficult time in your life. My advice is always to do everything exactly the opposite of what I did. Care about yourself; know that it is over and try very hard to accept that fact. More than anything, take care of yourself and your children (young or old, they still need you). I have other "words of wisdom borne from hurt and disappointment and also from a sense of being quite na´ve about people in general (!), but I'll save them for another day.
Keep posting and sharing your stories. It isn't the theory of misery loving company; it is knowing that you are not alone at a time when sometimes that is all you can feel. Best wishes to everyone on this board that you receive grace and strength for the future!