I need unbiased help. Everyone I know wants me to stick it to him, but that's NOT what I want. I want things to be fair and amicable. I want this to have as little effect on our 8 yr old son as possible.
So, my husband told me a week ago that he wants a divorce. Found out he's been cheating on me, or at the very least talking with someone else. He said at the beginning that he wants to remain friends/family, and he wants this to go as smoothly for our son as it can be. I agreed. We agreed to use on attorney because we felt we could work this out ourselves, and be fair.
However, today I asked via text if he had contacted an attorney yet. He responded with, "Why". Said I was just wondering. He said he had. I asked when, and he asked me why I was asking. I said because he never mentioned it to me. He then asked if I was changing my mind, and no longer willing to work with one, to which I replied that was not the case, but that I would like to be informed as to what is going on.
His reply was a screenshot of an email from someone saying they needed a bunch of financial info, and he said, "That's what she wants." I asked how he found her. His response was, "Why are you asking such weird questions. I didn't find her on Craigslist." I said I thought I should be informed because I should know something about this person who holds my future in her hands. I mentioned that if this was the other way around, he'd want to this stuff, and said, "Again, how did you find her?"
His response was, "It's all stuff you and I discuss and agree on. Quit being so paranoid!" I said again, "Put yourself in my shoes. you would want the same." To which he replied, "Omg. She's under F*&^yourwifeover.com.I'm being more than fair with you. I can't deal with this right now. I'm at work. This is who I got and who I paid for. I'm not doing anything unfair. In fact you are walking away in a better spot than I. I'm stuck with everything. Quit being paranoid."
I said, "fine. At least give me her name. I'm not paranoid. These are basic questions that I have a right to know." Then he responded, " I just said I can't deal right now. My boss is here."