Hey you are human and maybe a romantic that hoped for the best for your marriage and family. Its reasonable for you to think like that since its been that long and you could do things together, but she has taken it to another stage.
I have been there too. My wife walked out on my and my four kids and none of us saw it coming. We didnt fight. We were best friends. Our kids had it great. We had respected each other nad had sex 4 or 5 times a week. She walked out along with a bunch of lies, but I still welcomed her back. Even after her first boyfriend her and I was still having sex. We still did things with the kids together. Even after her second boyfriend, we still had sex, we still did things together. In fact, the frequency of sex increased and are kids got use to us being together just not staying in our home. Her and I even went on vacation together and our kids knew she had a boyfriend. We had a wonderful time and I would go in the other room when her boyfriend called because he didnt know I was there with my WIFE, we were still married. How messed up is that?
I even offered to stay married to her and she keep her double life and we would tell the kids she is on travel for work. I did this out of commitment and strength for our marriage and God and our behalf of our children. I mean we still did things. Our kids were vocal that they wanted us back together and our sex life was good and I was giving her all the freedom she wanted because I thought eventually I would win all of her heart back.
It didnt happen. She married her third boyfriend. It messed me up. It messed our kids up too. Not sure i will ever be over it.
Its like a nightmare to be honest. I loved her very much. I loved my family and my kids. I could not in a million years have done that to her or my kids.
We been divorced for two years but its been 6 years since she walked out...never came back in all those years. I gave it my best shot is all I can say.
Take a look at this world we live in. Watch the news. Check out the divorce rate. Dont expect our system or anything related to our government to give a hoot about any morals or the right thing. Your wife could sleep with a different man or woman every night and the only thing the courts cares is are the kids in danger of physical harm, do they have the things that the courts think they should have, but if you go in there saying its not morally right or thats not how we raised our kids or it sends a immoral message to my kids, they will laugh at you and mop up the floor with your tears. When it comes to morals we are bankrupt.
You want her back...Im guessing because you love her and loved the idea of you and her. Not a damn thing wrong with that. But who am I to tell you whats wrong or tell you to give up on a dream.
Facing the new guy will be horrible for you.
Edited by FrancoStacy (04/01/17 10:31 PM)