I totally understand and accept she is an adult who can chose to adult things with any other number of adults she chooses. As hurt as I am, I take no issue with that on a legal basis. However, when my kids are included in 'family' dinners, and repeatedly brought around an 'addict' it is totally unacceptable. Leave THEM out of it. It is apparent that my children are NOT her primary concern.
I would love to have sole residential custody. The children are not vaccinated. Further, they are homeschooled and are far behind. I was on board for delayed vaxx. I was on board for home school for kindergarten, etc.. but this was when the plan was for her to go back to work at the school she taught at before we had kids. Our children would've gone for GREATLY reduced tuition (private school). After we separated, she interviewed, got a job offer, and turned it down. Again, she is not thinking of the kids.
My original post wasn't looking for legal advice, though. Moral support really. I don't have anyone in my life in a similar situation. Very supportive sympathetic people, yes. But no one who has been through it.