so...first time I've ever posted on anything like this, just wanted to see what options I have, please bear with me. I've been married almost 23 years to a man who served 25 years, and we were married 12 of those years. We have 2 children together (one who has special needs). I worked part of the time during our marriage, but have not worked the past 10+ years due to caring for our special needs child. Husband had committed adultery multiple times during our marriage (since the very early times even). Which in retrospect I should have left then, but am glad I didn't or I wouldn't have my 2 children whom I love dearly. So, he's a cheater...blah blah blah. I knew it, he knew I knew, we even talked about it. BUT I knew our children (ESPECIALLY our special needs child would be devastated it we divorced), so I just moved on so to speak. I have recently found out that husband has been using prostitutes over the past 2 years (could be longer, but can only prove 2 years). At this point, my own sanity is at stake. Being in the same room as him is challenging for lack of a better word. I have been able to "fake it" in front of our kids for 18 years, but can no longer do that as I am absolutely disgusted by this man. I do have a strong support system from my parents and family, and they know everything. I want to leave but am concerned what my rights are financially. As I stated I have not worked and can NOT work because of the care required for our child. I am concerned obviously that I might not be able to provide financially for our children (one is also in college). What can I expect? He receives retirement pay and VA disability pay. He also has a SBP for me, and for our special needs child. Should I just stick it out? Any advice would be welcome. Please be respectful, as this has been very hard to deal with obviously. I KNOW I should have left sooner, but financially have felt trapped and unable to do so. I don't want my kids to suffer. Anyone with some helpful info?