If you filed in California, several automatic temporary restraining orders took effect when you served him. These are listed on the FL-110 Summons form that he should have been served with when you filed. It sounds like he has violated these orders and his violation is detrimental to you. This seems pretty clear cut, I don't understand why your attorney doesn't want to respond to it.
As to his TRO on you, you opened yourself up to that when you sent "mean texts". What is he trying to restrain you from doing?
On spousal support, you want to take a look at CA Family Code section 4320. That lists several mostly subjective factors that a judge is required to consider in ordering judgment spousal support. It's primarily based on his ability to pay, your need, and how much you should be expected to provide for your own needs. If you're both employed at similar levels of income you probably won't get much, but if he's employed and you've primarily been a homemaker, don't have much experience or job prospects you should get a decent amount. If you're currently receiving temporary spousal support, you should probably expect something a bit less as judgment support.