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#774058 - 11/13/17 09:47 PM Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed..
cjohnso33 Offline
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Hi - i'm divorcing wife of 10+ years, 3 kids. She is unemployed, making finances extremely difficult. She has an advanced degree to practice law, but appears unmotivated to seek employment. I currently pay for everything (her rent + mine at new home). This is unsustainable given my annual salary.

Any insight as to how this will play out and/or how best to proceed?

*in California.

Thanks in advance!

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#774059 - 11/13/17 10:42 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
MinnesotaMom Offline

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You don't have an attorney? You need one yesterday. You should have never moved out, or served her immediately if she moved out. You should not be paying her bills. She are setting precedent to keep paying....by continuing to pay.

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#774061 - 11/13/17 10:51 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
cjohnso33 Offline
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Thx for the response. I can't afford an attorney. Its a ridiculous situation, i know... but i literally have zero extra money.

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#774063 - 11/14/17 04:20 AM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
matilda Offline
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There are many lawyers that will give you a free initial consultation. It is very important that you take the time to see a lawyer. As a previous poster stated you are setting precedence.

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#774064 - 11/14/17 12:30 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
MinnesotaMom Offline

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You can save a few thousand now by not getting an attorney and you can expect it to cost anywhere from tens to hundreds of thousands later. It's up to you. A consult is anywhere from free to a couple hundred dollars.

Where are the kids residing right now? Do you have a child support order in place? To give a rough idea what you should be paying, what percentage of the time do you have the children and what is your annual income? You can send this in a private message if you like. You should not be sending anymore than would be court ordered, going by the requested info. Your unemployed wife will be working soon. Staying home and not working with her credentials is perk of marriage, which is now over. Unless you are a very high earner, you shouldn't be paying alimony.


Edited by MinnesotaMom (11/14/17 12:34 PM)

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#774066 - 11/14/17 07:05 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
cjohnso33 Offline
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Hi MinnesotaMom - I PM'd you. thanks!!!

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#774070 - 11/15/17 01:02 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
MinnesotaMom Offline

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I didn't get any messages. I sent a PM for you to respond to.

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#774072 - 11/15/17 09:27 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
cjohnso33 Offline
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I responded. Do you see it?

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#774083 - 11/17/17 06:00 PM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
MinnesotaMom Offline

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I responded a couple days ago, but I can see it's unread.

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#774084 - 11/19/17 05:30 AM Re: Getting Divorced - Wife unemployed.. [Re: cjohnso33]
TJMH Offline

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First, most lawyers take credit cards. And as MM said, if you think a lawyer is expensive just wait until you see what it costs not to have one. You can save money by representing yourself but you at least need to consult with a lawyer to know what you need to do.

If your wife is capable of supporting herself but is voluntarily unemployed or underemployed you can get her imputed with income and have that considered in calculating child support and spousal support.

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