I was married to my ex for 19 years. I had to leave him when he started showing signs of severe mental illness, psychosis, delusions, possibly schizofrenia. This came on suddenly. He was not sick when I married him and was not sick during the marriage. He choked me in a psychotic rage with kids watching. He was arrested and children and I left the home. A year after while we continued to live separately for my and kids safety reasons he had still refused medical treatment so I had to file for separation. I gave him ample time to stick to medical treatment. He refuses because doesn't think he is sick. So now he remains unemployed, homeless. I have sole custody of our children. He is only allowed supervised visits with them at a center. He has refused to attend for 3 years now. He doesn't want to be "watched". It feeds into his psychosis. He doesn't pay child support because he is not working and will likely never work with his illness due to him refusing medical help. His lawyer is seeking that I pay him spousal! Not only do I have to support my children on my own but now I could be expected to pay him spousal! I only make $70,000/year I have two children to financially support and put a roof over there heads. If he took his medication, he could be productive and keep a job. He doesn't have an incurable disease or terminal illness that he can't work. By not taking his meds, he self sabatoges his ability to keep a job. What is the likelihood of a judge ordering me to pay him spousal. I have so much anxiety over this.