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TABLE OF CONTENTS Foreword Preface Introduction and Overview Chapter 1. Act Now Real Men Have Feeling, Too The Road Ahead Road Blocks Perseverance Will Pay Off Action You Should Take Chapter 2. Understanding Your Children's Perspective Breaking The News Children's Feelings Things you Cant Change Things You Can Do To Help Conclusion Chapter 3. Be Your Own Cognitive Therapist Taking Control Dealing With Social Contexts Focus on the Advantages Let Go of Past Mistakes Conclusion Chapter 4. What to DO and Not When You Children Are With You Handling Visitation What to DO When You Children Are With You What To Do When Your Child Asks What Not to Do When You Children Are With You Conclusion Chapter 5. What To Do and Not When Your Children Are With Their Mother Re-focus when the Children Are Away What To Do When Your Children Are With Their Mother What Not To Do When Your Children Are With Their Mother Conclusion Chapter 6.How To Interact with Your Former Spouse Your Former Wife's Reaction to the Divorce Relationships with Former Spouse Take the High Ground Communicating When Former Spouse Abandons the Children Post-divorce Prevention Programs Conclusion Chapter 7.Attempt to Mediate Your Differences with Your Former Wife Divorce Mediation Benefits of Mediation When Mediation Will Not Work Issues of Mediation Rules to Play By Examples Conclusion Chapter 8.Settle Your Differences in Court if You Must Legal Hardball How Much Legal Access Do You Want? If You Want Primary Physical Custody If You Want Joint Custody Conclusion Chapter 9.Give Your Children Time To Accept Your New Partner When You Fall in Love, But Your Children Don't Issues to Consider It Happens Conclusion Chapter 10.For The New partner-By The New Partner Know What you Are Getting Into Being Supportive Building a Relationship Dos Don'ts Hope Ahead Chapter 11. Gay Dads Who Are Gay fathers? How Many Others are Out There? Coming Out to The Wife Coming Out to The Children Custody and Visitation Issues Conclusion Chapter 12. Remarriage - For You and Your Children's Mother When You remarry Before you Remarry Children's Views The Remarriage of Your Former Spouse Stages Toward Feeling Like a Family Again Conclusion Chapter 13. The Important of Staying Connected with Your Children The Devaluation of Fathers How a Father is Beneficial to Children How Fathering and Mothering Differ The Need for New Social Politics Chapter 14. Some Tips on Fathering A Profile of Divorced Fathers Four Facts about Fatherhood Four Different Parenting Styles Eight Needs of Children Guidelines to Improve Your Child's Behavior When Dads Must Find Day Care Conclusion: The Choice of Every Dad End notes Appendix Appendix I: Legal Terms Appendix II: Legal Specifications of Visitation Rights Appendix III: AN Open Letter to Judges Appendix IV: National and International Listing of Attorneys, Mediators, and Custody Evaluations Appendix V: Resources and Websites Index Close Window