Close Window

TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction: Why Mediate? Chapter 1. The Role of Mediation in the Divorce Process A. The Four Divorces B. Keep It Simple C. Beyond Basics D. Long Term Effects E. Mediation Chapter 2. What Happens in Mediation A. Overview B. Introductory Stage C. Gathering Stage D. Framing Stage E. Negotiating Stage F. Concluding Stage G. Assessing the Cost of Robert and Fran's Mediation Chapter 3. Deciding on Mediation A. Will It Play in Peoria? B. Test Yourself C. Shall We Dance D. Facing the Music E. It Takes Two to Tango Chapter 4. Proposing Mediation to Your Spouse A. When to Propose B. Who Should Propose C. How to Propose D. Do's and Dont's Chapter 5. Finding a Mediator A. Shortcut B. Qualified Mediators C. Finding the Right Fit D. Who Provides Mediation Services E. Making a List F. Checking It Twice G. Interviewing and Selection Chapter 6.Preparing for the First Session Step One through Step Eight Chapter 7. Making the Most of the First Session A. Mediator Approaches and Styles B. Neutrality and Bias C. Confidentiality D. Agreement to Meditate E. Evaluating the First Session F. Monitoring Your Progress Chapter 8. Communicating in Mediation A. What is Communication? B. What Can Go Wrong in Communication? C. Tips for Good Communication D. Tips for Communicating About Problems E. Handling Strong Emotions in Communication Chapter 9. Negotiating in Mediation A. We Negotiate Al the Time B. What Makes for a Successful Negotiation? C. Prepare for the Negotiating D. Negotiate Clearly, Firmly and Respectfully During Mediation Chapter 10. Court-Sponsored Mediation A. Types of Court-Sponsored Mediation Programs B. How Court-Sponsored Mediation Works C. Voluntary Mediation: To Try or Not? D. Mandatory Mediation E. If You Can't Opt Out of Mandatory Mediation F. Preparing for Court-Sponsored Mediation G. Attending Mediation Sessions H. After the Mediation Session Chapter 11. Using Advisors and Doing Legal Research A. How and When to Use Advisors B. Friends, Romans, And Countrymen C. Legal Advisors D. Counselor E. Financial Advisors F. Specialized Advisors G. Coordinating Your Advisor H. Finding Answers Chapter 12. Encountering Difficulties in Mediation: Breakdowns, Detours and Exits A. Four-Step Approach B. Discrepancies C. Delays and Disconnects D. Tantrums E. Extreme Discomfort F. Impasse G. last Minuet Changes H. Dealing With Persistent Problems I. Leaving Mediation J. Where There's a Will, There's a Way Chapter 13. Writing Up The Agreement A. Interim or Temporary Agreement B. Partial Agreements C. Why Put Interim and Partial Agreements in Writing? D. Final Settlement Chapter 14. Women and Men in Mediation A. Historical Background B. Gender and Mandatory Mediation C. Gender and Voluntary Mediation D. Common Gender-Related Obstacles Chapter 15. Unmarried Couples in Mediation A. Cant Agree B. Untying the Nonmarital Knot C. Successful Mediation Chapter 16. Mediation after Divorce A. Mediating Changes B. Mediating New Relationship Issues Appendix Index Close Window