In marriages where unmancipated children demand (and are entitled to) the love and attention of their divorced parents, this is far more difficult.

Divorced spouses must still be parents, and this means they are still connected to each other and will be the rest of their lives -- or at least until the majority.

Ben Franklin’s observation about war and peace ("There never was a good war or a bad peace") finds application here. Divorced spouses must redefine themselves as divorced parents, who can now, to the best of their individual and joint abilities, must put the bad war of divorce behind them and make the good peace of divorced parenting work, if not for each other, then for the children.

What is salient about after divorce parenting is divorced parents must do everything undivorced parents do and do it without the benefit of each other presence and reinforcement. This tough set of marching orders ignores the fact that the two divorced parents march across terrain now made rugged by diminished finances, unresolved anger and bitter remorse.

It is easy to see why the "kid connection," as it has been called, can become a test of character for the former spouses.

For one, the former spouses must deal with the new routines and regimes brought into play by noncustodial parent.

In America’s very mobile society, very frequently divorced parents face the situation where the visitation.

Changing circumstances of finances sometimes require divorced spouses to amend financial arrangements.

Like relocation, changes in circumstance sometimes warrant changes in motion for an increase in child support against the other spouse.

As a rule, courts are less likely to change alimony.

The introduction of a new partner for one children of a divorced family is the reunion of the parents.

Most people who divorce eventually marry again. A second or third marriage often brings with it blended families -- the yours, mine and (eventually) ours.

After divorce, the ideal outcome is for parents to be able to deal with any of these after divorce events -- custody and visitation, relocation, litigation as the option of last resort.

See also Imputed Income; Child Support; Alimony; Spousal Support.