Here is a list of a Children’s Rights Bill of Rights, which are considered in all interest of the children:

> a continuing relationship with both parents.
> being seen not as a piece of property, but as a human being recognized to have unique feelings, ideas, and desires consistent with that of an individual.
> continuing care and proper guidance from each parent.
> not to be unduly influenced by either parent to view the other parent differently.
> expressed love, friendship, and respect for both parents: freedom from having to hide those stated emotions or made to be ashamed of such.
> an explanation that the impending action of divorce was in no way caused by the child’s actions.
> not being the subject and/or source of any and all arguments.
> continuing, honest feedback with respect to the divorce process and its impact on the changing relationships of the family.
> maintenance of regular contact with both parents and a clear explanation for any change in plans and/or cancellations.
> enjoyment of a pleasurable relationship with both parents, never to be employed as a manipulative bargaining tool.

The obligation of being a parent does not end after a divorce. Failure to realize this is a very common social problem in today’s society: as a dissolution of marriage takes place, so does the parenting. To avoid difficulty in sharing parenthood after a divorce, parents should try to follow these basic rules:

> Address situations with business-like behavior. If at any time a conversation becomes a little too personal, it might be wise to continue it on a later date.
> Respect and encourage the child’s relationship with the other parent.
> Schedule regular appointments with the ex-spouse to discuss parenting issues.
> Make no assumptions on past behavior.
> Attempt to express and/or show appreciation towards one another as even the simplest comment or action can create a stronger and more effective partnership.
> Never intentionally break or skip appointments. If one can’t be kept, be immediately forthright and honest.
> Do not make individual decisions.
> Be open minded.
> Remember the goals and recognize the benefits as they arise.

See also Tender Years; Preference (Child’s).