As quickly as you suspect a lie, set up a plan of action to free your mind by collecting and evaluating evidence.
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Do not leap to conclusions; carefully accumulate evidence.
Remember, silence is golden. At this point do not confront your partner. Confrontations based on suspicions, intuition and distortions are unproductive. You need facts. Confronting the other person with insufficient evidence is unproductive and counter-productive. Betrayers are likely to do what almost everyone does that is having an affair: They lie and level accusations at the accuser. Moreover, if you are certain that there is an affair, it is not always best to confront the person with the evidence. It might drive then directly and prematurely into the arms of the waiting paramour. What you must cultivate is self-control.
Affairs produce wild, crazy emotions, mental instability and detrimental actions. Strength lies in taking control of yourself.
You will likely go through three stages:
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