A parent should discuss the evaluation with his or her attorney, and try to remember that the evaluator wants to known as much about the family as possible. Most parents are nervous when seeing the evaluator and will want to present themselves favorably. Both parents should be honest and open about, not only their own strengths and weaknesses as a parent, but also the other parent's strengths and weaknesses. Try and stay more focused on the needs of the child than the differences with the former spouse.

A parent should try to be open to various custody/visitation plans. Try not to appear vindictive or overly critical. Consider the benefits to the child of maintaining a healthy relationship with his/her other parent.