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Divorce Is More Than Just Legalities
All too often divorce professionals view divorce as just a series of legal proceedings. Divorce papers are served and filed with the court, attorneys request additional paperwork from the other party, the couple has court-mandated dates to meet and parenting classes to attend, attorneys negotiate with the opposing side, and ultimately, sooner or later, the divorce is final. At that stage, the perception of many of the professionals involved in the divorce is that everything is over and erased. They believe that people just go on with their lives, as though a book has been finished and put away. Unfortunately, the reality is not quite that simple.
For the affected couples and their families, the impact will be felt for a very long time. Some people will deal with the after shocks of divorce for the rest of their lives. Many will be damaged by a formerly dysfunctional relationship and some by the ugly and protracted court battles and settlements. People subjected to major life upheavals need time to recover. Certainly, they must attend to the mundane everyday chores, but they should not neglect their own emotional well-being. Families too, including children, may often need to deal with their emotional states, such as grief, anger, and depression to begin healing and living healthier lives.
It is important for divorcing couples to recognize that divorce is not just a well-defined set of legalities, but is a series of interrelated processes unique to each individual. These processes may include legal, emotional, financial, interpersonal, and practical areas. Depending on the situation and the individuals involved, some areas will need more or less attention. One spouse may move on quicker than the other, some children will fare better than others, but divorce is a drastic change for all people involved.
How can people help themselves through this deeply involved divorce process? Several ways come to mind:
Understand that finishing a relationship and adjusting to a new life takes time - and work. Therapists tell me that although individuals' reactions are unique, many people make take one or two years, sometimes more, to feel comfortable in their new lives. Remember, this type of dramatic change is truly a process, which eventually people will finish and be able to go on to a healthy and productive future.
Colorado does not automatically award custody of the minor children to the mother, and the court does not consider fault. The court considers what is in the best interests of the child. Colorado divorce law allows for two different kinds of child custody: primary residential and legal custody. Primary residential custody means the parent the child lives with; legal custody means the rights that a parent has to make important decision for the child. Usually, the judge will give joint legal custody to both parents and primary residential custody to only one of the parents.
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