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Words of Wisdom for Women in Divorce - Failure
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. - Napoleon Hill
Inspiration: I love this verse because it lets me know that no matter how bad something looks, or how bad I feel at the moment because of this situation that something good is going to come out of it. When I am in these situations I have a hard time believing that to be true. Yet, if I can grasp a hold of this one truth and hang on to it like a lifesaver in the middle of the ocean then the hope of things turning around is imminent. I often wonder if the universe is not waiting for me to take a hold of this before things change in my life.
Action: Are you looking for the seed of equal or greater benefit in each of your failures? If not, why not? What is holding you back? Remember everything is made up of 2 sides the positive and the negative. The challenge we face is that we often only focus on one side at a time. Only as we learn to balance everything that happens to us or that we do will be become whole and be the victor.
No one is a failure until they blame somebody else. - Charles ''Tremendous'' Jones
Inspiration: In a divorce this so often happens when two people are wounded and are looking for ways to heal. Blame is the major focus to make us feel better or to somehow justify a situation. In this quote, the person who is doing the blaming is the one experiencing the failure, not the person they are blaming. Yes, we are in a difficult place but blaming will not make it better, it may temporarily make us feel good or feel we look better in the eyes of another but bottom line it is not the answer to your situation.
Action: Do you find yourself blaming others for your situation? Do you feel justified in doing that? Stop it now! You are only hurting yourself in the long run. You will not make it better or make yourself a better person as a result of blaming someone else. Yes, it happened and yes, the other person was a contributing factor but blame won't change the situation. All blame does is keep you locked into a negative emotional situation and does not free you to grow.
You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call Failure is not the falling down, but the staying down. - Mary Pickford
Inspiration: I love the thought that I can have a fresh start at any moment I choose. All I have to do is determine that today is the beginning of the rest of my life and I can create an awesome life. I am choosing to cut my past and all of its failures and see what I learned from them, for if I have learned nothing than I will repeat them. But if I have learned then I am a wiser person as a result of what happened to me. And if I am wiser then I will make better choices for my future as a result of the wisdom I acquired as a result of this situation. When you can start thinking like that your world will change.
Action: Determine that today is the first day of the rest of your life. What things that you call failures are keeping you stuck? Choose today to release them from your life and believe that those failures can become the stepping stones to your amazing future.
Failure is an event, never a person. - William D. Brown
Inspiration: This is so important as I find women blaming themselves for things that occurred and calling themselves a failure as a result of that. Things happen and we may have been part of the reason it happened - in no way defines us as who we are. Failures are events that happen and if you live on this planet long enough you will have your share of them. But to allow them to define you that is where the real mistake happens. To allow anyone else to define you because of the things you may or may have not done that too is a mistake. You may have made mistakes but that does not make you a failure. You are just learning what does and does not work. So give yourself a break and see these failures as learning curves in your attempt to be all that you are meant to be.
Action: It starts with your "self talk". If you see yourself as a failure then the world will join in on your assessment. If you choose to see your failures as part of a learning curve then you will become master of your destiny and great things are headed your way. The key thing is you get to choose.
You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. - Johnny Cash
Inspiration: This is a quote from a man who definitely has had his share of what the world would call failures. Yet he saw each failure is an opportunity for growth and making new changes. You too have this same opportunity and it is yours for the taking. Someone once asked Thomas Edison how it felt to have failed 1,000 times in trying to find the solution for the electric light bulb. Thomas' response is I found 1,000 ways that it didn't work. In your life you get to see each failure as an opportunity for growth or something that is keeping you held back. The failure is not the thing that is keeping you back it is how you see that failure. So hold up your head and accept what happened and see it as an opportunity to go higher as a result of it.
Action: Challenge whatever is holding you back because of past mistakes. Today stand tall and accept the failure as part of your learning curve to make you stronger and wiser and to be better equipped to handle the future.
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