Introduction to Divorce Negotiations
I strongly believe in negotiation and settlement. There are few words in the law more beautiful than settlement. The word denotes:
Settlement is important in family law particularly because there are children. The ugliness of a trial can permeate relationships for years. I therefore believe that the ideal divorce is one in which nothing is done to create or add to the kind of animosity that would prevent the parties from dancing together at their child's wedding.
While a bad settlement may sometimes beat a good trial, a good settlement beats a bad settlement. A good settlement doesn't just happen. It is the result of good negotiation. And good negotiation is the result of certain rules.
There is a wonderful scene in the movie Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. Robert Redford is going to fight the head of the gang for supremacy, but first he suggests they discuss the rules for the fight. When the much bigger and meaner opponent drops his knife to his side to ask, incredulously, "What? Rules, in a knife fight?" Robert Redford uses the opportunity to kick him in a very sensitive part of the male anatomy.
Usually, the parties are going through a divorce because there is a lack of trust, communication and cooperation in the marriage. When a legal action starts and lawyers get involved, this lack of trust, communication and cooperation does not lessen. Rather, it usually gets worse. A certain degree of trust, communication and cooperation is necessary to reach a settlement. Paradoxically, the very reasons that bring the parties to the bargaining table are the major impediments to settlement.
As a result, there needs to be some basic rules in the divorce "knife fight." Here are a few suggested rules for lawyers and clients to adopt, not to kick each other in sensitive spots, but to help overcome these fundamental impediments to settlement.
Useful Online Tools
Separation Agreement Software
Resources & Tools
LEVERAGE FACTORS -- In divorce negotiations, each spouse may have considerations pertaining to the issues that are being disputed. For example, one leverage factor is, in whose interest is it to remain married longer? Answering this question can be a starting point of divorce negotiations because it creates leverage over the negotiations.
Easily Connect With a Lawyer or Mediator
Have Divorce Professionals from Your Area Contact You!
Online Divorce Negotiation
So you and your spouse have a few issues to iron out before you can agree on your divorce? You are not alone, but you do not have to spend thousands on a lawyer to reach an agreement. With just a little participation and communication, you will be surprised how easy it is to resolve your disputes through our innovative Divorce Negotiation CenterTM. It's FREE. Give it a try.
Basic Principles of Law for Construing Separation Agreements
Established in 1996
© 1996 - 2021 Divorce Source, Inc. All Rights Reserved.