Some Oklahoma county courts require mediation; in other counties the parties may attempt mediation but it is not mandatory. The court may order mediation when the spouses disagree over custody or visitation of children under the age of 18. Mediation is available through professional mediators, who are typically attorneys and retired judges working for a fee.

After a divorce is final, the court may appoint an arbitrator for joint custody disputes. [Oklahoma Statutes Annotated; Title 43, 109].

There is no mandatory counseling in Oklahoma.

Parents with minor children and divorcing on the grounds of incompatibility must attend parent education classes. Judges determine the number of required hours and whether spouses take the course separately or together. The parent education program deals with co-parenting, conflict management, child development.