Sharing Your Financial Concerns With Your Child During Your Divorce
Key Points
  • It is up to the parent whether or not to share financial concerns with a children.
  • Your children will look to you for their safety and security, financial issues, and discussing those issues with your children may bring out feelings of insecurity. You may want to discuss financial concerns with family, friends or professionals but not your children.
  • Divorce can be financially taxing, remember, your financial problems are yours, do not blame your ex-spouse for financial problems, leastwise not in front of your children.

Sharing your feelings with your child during the divorce and/or separation is highly recommended, but you should limit it to those other than financial concerns and emotional feelings towards the other parent.

Separated parents can not live as cheaply apart as together, so it is inevitable that you and your child will be financially affected by the new conditions. As a parent it is your job, especially through this experience, to provide security and stability for your child, so the consistent mentioning of financial troubles will greatly lessen that sense of security and stability. Your goal should be to protect your child from as many worries as possible, especially those that are financial related. Friends, relatives, and/or support groups are the best outlet for discussing any financial problems you may have.

Strategies and Tactics to Ease the Financial Burden of Your Child:

  • Have someone to talk to about emotional and financial burdens. Have these discussions in a place away from your child.
  • When assigning new responsibilities to your child, make sure your child is mature enough for the task and the new responsibility does not carry a financial burden.
  • Discuss or negotiate the financial situation with the other parent when your child is not present.
  • Never blame the other parent for the financial problems in front of your child. This will place your child in a vulnerable, no-win position.

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