Should I leave my wife?

Posted by: Lance

Should I leave my wife? - 12/26/17 07:17 PM

I'm not sure why I ask this question because I already know the answer. I've been a flawed husband, but even in bad times I've always showed love and support for my wife.

My wife has always been extremely cold and uncaring. Even with our kids. I don't think she has a nurturing bone in her body. She is extremely high strung and quick to anger. She is also extremely unhappy.

Against my better judgment, I bought my wife her 'dream home' even though it was overpriced and in an area that I wasn't especially crazy about. While I knew that buying the house would be a mistake, I didn't realize just how big a mistake it would truly turn out to be.

I have failed my wife. I have failed to make her happy and I am tired of her constant abrasiveness, lack of affection and lack of support.
Posted by: MinnesotaMom

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 12/27/17 08:31 PM

Whether you leave or not is up to you, but know it's not your job to make her happy. If she's unhappy, that's on her.
Posted by: kenpatric

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 01/24/18 06:51 AM

If someone is not happy with himself, he/she wouldn't be happy with anyone either.

I'm not sure but I highly doubt things may still work out if you involve a psychiatrist or psychologist to really make sure if it something that can be treated with therapy or something. Worth a shot.
Posted by: ChristATL

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 02/28/18 03:17 PM

Lance your in the same situation, or similar situation, that I am in. I have been married for 15 years and even though I have done quite a few things wrong my current wife is also the same as you described. Very angry all the time and abrasive towards well, everyone and everything. That's the short summary of it.

I too am clearly flawed and I am admitting to my failures. The difference here is that I acknowledge my flaws where my wife will not, will never, or ever.

I think hearing your story has giving me hope because I have fallen into that trap of thinking I am the only one going through this, but hearing just a small portion of what you are experiencing makes me realize I am not.
I personally think after much research on the subject that while it stinks, its probably time.

Thank you and keep us informed.
Posted by: dpete2676

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 06/12/18 10:50 PM

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Posted by: MinnesotaMom

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 06/13/18 12:46 AM

Spam and against terms of service.
Posted by: dpete2676

Re: Should I leave my wife? - 06/13/18 02:59 PM

im actually a member and a real person? ive faced the same struggles as all of you and still daily push to keep my marriage alive. i was simply sharing a link that was shared with me and helped me. do with it what you want. some people may not like to take that route. me, i was willing to try anything to fix my marriage and keep my family together. different strokes for different folks. i just started an account and will be an active poster here, finishing my profile today.
but my link isnt spam. its directly associated with the discussion at hand and was posted by a real active member. its not against the rules to link people to things that will help them. this is a forum dedicated to helping people save their marriage.
if you recommend a counselor and give a link to their website is it spam?
if i give you the link to a divorce lawyer is it spam?
i think the problem here is more in what you "think" you know and making assumptions than it is actual facts. i dont quite know why you got so offended but i apologize that u did.
all it is is a book that helped me and my wife. this site and forums are for information and sharing things whether it be experiences or tools to help each other. i have different tools and links and articles of my own waiting to be published as well on the topic that are completely free, am i not going to be able to link people to my completely free tools tips and tricks? i find that to go against everything this site is for.
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have a great day and see you around :)