Should we divorce without lawyers???

Posted by: Nico2843

Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 09/09/16 04:02 PM

Married 8yrs...together 15. Have 2 little boys. He owns 2 townhomes that we rent out. We both work full time & both kids go to full time daycare. He makes almost tripple what i do. He wants to do the divorce online and as cheap as possible. Just found out he had an affair 2yrs ago and now they're together-- the anger in me wants to get a good lawyer & take him for everything hes got!!!! But im not that kind of a person---- my real question is when you do a divorce yourself does the online stuff help/or give examples/suggestions on how things should be split up?
Posted by: MinnesotaMom

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 09/09/16 08:24 PM

It depends on many factors: the state you live in, when the townhomes were purchased and exactly how those expenses are handled, income levels, proposed custody plan, ability to pay, ect. More details are needed, but know the affair probably has little, if any influence.
Posted by: TJMH

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 09/10/16 05:15 AM

I'd recommend finding another way to work out your (justifiable) anger. Trying to do it through the divorce process will be expensive and unpleasant for both of you.

If you're mostly agreeable about property division, child & spousal support, custody/parenting, etc. I'd recommend getting an attorney mediator to help with the paperwork and craft your settlement agreement. I think this is the best way to get things done correctly but quickly and cheaply. A mediator will know the laws of your state as well as what's typical.
Posted by: knoxfamilylaw

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 01/06/17 11:53 PM

Expenses can really get out of hand in the divorce process with every issue of conflict. I'd suggest reaching an agreement between yourselves as an inexpensive option.
Posted by: FrancoStacy

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 04/01/17 09:58 PM

Get a lawyer
If you both agree, then get ONE lawyer that works for both of you. Judge is more likely to accept it all.
Posted by: QDRO Instructor

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 07/07/17 09:36 PM

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Posted by: Hila

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 10/03/17 07:13 AM

You most certainly need a lawyer. If you not the type of person to skin your X, but the lawyer is, that's their job. And you certainly need one. Of course, you could grasp some idea from information on the internet, but if we look at the case objectively, amount of hours you waste on your legal education will hardly exceed 20~30 hours and a lawyer has over 30000 hours of experience during only the education period. So it's common sense to visit a lawyer at any chance you come into contact with legal issues. As for the specific lawyer, I'm strongly recommending this family law attorney family law attorney new york in New York
Posted by: John h

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 02/08/18 09:19 AM

Best Way to have Attorney for this crises, They knows all the laws and it will save your time and money. If you hire a lawyer then you have to spend more time and money. And try to keep away your child's from all this issue, it will impact on them as well.
Posted by: CharlesAdams

Re: Should we divorce without lawyers??? - 02/15/18 11:24 AM

Get a lawyer or atleast once consult with a good one.