DH is set to PCS overseas for 15 months in July. Currently, we live in the same state (Ohio) as his daughter who is almost 14). We're four hours away and have lived here almost 4 years. They've been divorced for 6 years. He is supposed to get EOW, and EO holiday visitation plus 2 weeks in the summer with them meeting halfway or the one who doesn't has to pay the cost of transportation. When he got here and we met, he only saw her when the ex said he could, which wasn't often and was only at her convenience. So, since he's been here, he's seen her off and on for a somewhat regular schedule (hasn't seen her the last 6 weeks due to classes on Saturdays for cotillion).
His insisting on his visitation rights was a real problem for the ex. She was so angry about it and his daughter has not been easy to deal with. She gets alot of negative feedback from her mom and, though it's slowed down, every time they'd meet for the exchange, the ex would use it as an opportunity to verbally bash him (and I'm talking out and out yelling) in front of his daughter.
We don't yet know his follow on base and SD will be 15.5 when he gets back around Oct 06. Should he go to court now to get the visitation language changed as we'll most likely be at least 3-4 states away minimum which will eliminate weekend visits? If/when he does go to court, does anyone have suggestions on what he should ask for? What is reasonable?
Can language be added regarding contact with his daughter while he is overseas? Currently, when she doesn't come up here, she never calls unless she wants something from him which isn't often. She has email and IM, but claims she doesn't use it yet hogs up our computer doing that when she's here. My husband loves his daughter dearly and is afraid of losing total contact with her while he's overseas.
The ex is very anti my husband and his family though they continue to send his daughter and ex cards at birthdays and holidays and send his daughter gifts for her special occasions. She seems to do all that she can to discourage his involvement in his daughter's life and her attachments to us, so I don't imagine that he'll get any support from her to have his daughter stay in contact with him.