Can she legally visit in ca 1 month at a time.
---> What good would that do her?
Can she apply for a hardship to move to california.
---> There is nothing to stop HER from moving to California, HOWEVER, she can't take the kids with unless she has written permission from the father or from the courts. And it is doubtful, that the courts would grant her a request to relocate the children.
Father will give her 100.00 or 200.00 a month. nothing to live on.
---> Well...unless so ordered by the courts, father NO longer has to support HER, so she needs to get a job. You say he is giving her money, is this his court-ordered child support? Are you absolutely certain about the amount of money?
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