I hate to say it, but when a woman decides on a divorce, there is usually know way to change her mind. I don't think it's fair for her to move your daughter 200 miles away, though. I would be concerned that she is going to "poison" your daughter against you. No matter how hateful she gets though, don't stop seeing your daughter. Little kids usually blame themselves for your break-up, even though usually they wont voice that, but internalize it. Just let her know how much you love her and never ask her questions about her mother that will put her in the middle. If she grows up seeing that you love her and continue to be nice to your ex-wife, even when she doesn't deserve it, she will grow up and make the right decisions.
Cheryl--"If you are praying to God for help, be willing to listen to the answer He provides"