Exactly...they are there for the kids, but it rarely tells the whole story. For example, who is setting a better example: Me, who has a live-in boyfriend, we plan on getting married, very serious, long relationship, and the only man since the divorce I let the kids know I was dating and then didn't until it was serious. Or...my ex who doesn't have anyone living with him but dates multiple women at the same time, the kids know most of them and are instructed not to talk to Girl A about Girl B because Girl A would get mad, frequently has one night stands in the house while the children are present, but they don't spend the night, they just come for the action and leave. He thinks his version is better because he isn't living with anyone. I disagree...and luckily, so does the judge.