I agree. "If I had known then what I know now..."
I remember signing my decree that night. It was the night before our court date. Our lawyers had us each in seperate rooms, going back and forth. It was taking HOURS and we were each paying something like $300 an hour to our lawyers.
We were stuck on several items...one big one to me was him committing to never taking the kids around his father. Another was him providing baby sitters if he couldn't exercise his parenting time...because I was taking night classes and was counting on him taking the kids while I was in class. I forget what the others were...but at the very LAST minute, they threw in the 50/50 college expenses. I remember fighting it...wanting "in ratio to income", but it was the last item on the table and I just felt like getting it over with. I remember reluctantly agreeing to it. I remember how totally frazzled everyone was at the time.
I honestly have NO recollection of how the 50/50 medical got in there...I don't remember agreeing to it...and I do remember that the guidelines said "in ratio to income."
Our decree is like 30 pages long, so I guess I just missed it...and with tension so high and both of us trying to avoid court the next day AND getting our lawyers off of the clock, I'm sure we both signed off on things that have come back to haunt us now.