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#150921 - 10/04/06 09:24 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Susanf31]
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So you would make him pay for all college?

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#150922 - 10/04/06 09:26 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: M5M5]
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Well, considering that my side of the family is paying for ALL of their tuition for 4 years, I'd think he could pick up the books and share in room &amp; board with me in ratio to income.

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#150923 - 10/04/06 09:33 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Susanf31]
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You just said it was 50/50 for college and why is he held to an agreement at the time of divorce but not you?
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#150924 - 10/04/06 09:44 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Miranda]
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I'm not saying he will be held to it. It's certainly his perrogative to return to court and try to get it modified. We both have the right to do that at any time about any part of the CO we don't like. Doesn't say we'll win or lose, but we are both free to try.

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#150925 - 10/04/06 09:45 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Susanf31]
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Personally that is the dumbiest thing you can have in a CO..paying for college expenses.

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#150926 - 10/04/06 10:06 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: M5M5]
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Dumbiest? :)

I agree. "If I had known then what I know now..."

I remember signing my decree that night. It was the night before our court date. Our lawyers had us each in seperate rooms, going back and forth. It was taking HOURS and we were each paying something like $300 an hour to our lawyers.

We were stuck on several items...one big one to me was him committing to never taking the kids around his father. Another was him providing baby sitters if he couldn't exercise his parenting time...because I was taking night classes and was counting on him taking the kids while I was in class. I forget what the others were...but at the very LAST minute, they threw in the 50/50 college expenses. I remember fighting it...wanting "in ratio to income", but it was the last item on the table and I just felt like getting it over with. I remember reluctantly agreeing to it. I remember how totally frazzled everyone was at the time.

I honestly have NO recollection of how the 50/50 medical got in there...I don't remember agreeing to it...and I do remember that the guidelines said "in ratio to income."

Our decree is like 30 pages long, so I guess I just missed it...and with tension so high and both of us trying to avoid court the next day AND getting our lawyers off of the clock, I'm sure we both signed off on things that have come back to haunt us now.

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#150927 - 10/04/06 10:18 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Susanf31]
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Susan, you can afford to pay half medical and half college. Just suck it up and stop being so anal. Let the kids get JOBS to help with college like many kids will have to do.
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#150928 - 10/04/06 10:21 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Avaya]
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Yes, IF I can afford to pay half medical, I'd have no problem doing so. It's the medical I CAN'T afford to pay 1/2 of that has me worried.

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#150929 - 10/04/06 10:30 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Susanf31]
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First, if you were going to give up spousal support, you certainly should have negotiated a new arrangement on the medical expenses as well. I am sur ethe ex would have jumped at it.

Even with that said, contributions to a child's medical care is usually considered a form of child supoprt. As a result, it canbe modified when there is a substantial change in circumstance. You appear to have that even itf it was voluntary. It may be worth it to file a Motion in that regard.

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#150930 - 10/04/06 10:45 PM Re: What should I do? Maury [Re: Maury]
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Is that a motion I can file by myself or do I need a lawyer?

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