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#172479 - 12/11/06 07:24 PM Temporary Support - silly me
1004SRS Offline
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Registered: 12/11/06
Posts: 5044
Just some hard earned advice. WHen you file for divorce always ask for temporary support. I am learning this the hard way. No matter how nice the STBX is acting once it gets to court, they will change. The kids and I do okay on our own. BUt, he was helping out every so often. Upon advice from his lawyer since I didn't ask for support, he doesn't have to pay anything.

Egads. What a learning experience for me....

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#172480 - 12/11/06 07:29 PM Re: Temporary Support - silly me [Re: 1004SRS]
Dee78 Offline
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Registered: 06/02/05
Posts: 11820
Loc: TN
Yep. I didn't file for support because I thought I was giving him a little bit of a break. After 20 months of separation, very little financial support, and no end in sight, I filed for temporary support in a separate motion.

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#172481 - 12/11/06 07:41 PM Re: Temporary Support - silly me [Re: Dee78]
1004SRS Offline
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Registered: 12/11/06
Posts: 5044
5 months so far. No end in sight. I was trying to be civil because I know that the amount of child support he is going to pay is A LOT. Thought I'd give him a bit of a break and he'd willingly help support our 2 kids.

I am filing for temporary support this week. Tired of the silliness.

Also, I know he needs to spend time with our kids. How do you get over the frustration of him not paying anything (or very little) towards their lives when he asks to see them.

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#172482 - 12/11/06 07:45 PM Re: Temporary Support - silly me [Re: 1004SRS]
jil_stevens Offline
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Registered: 08/01/06
Posts: 3893
You don't get over it, LOL. You just be the bigger person and let him see them anyway, so when the non-payment issue comes to court, then he is the only one who looks childish.

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#172483 - 12/11/06 07:47 PM Re: Temporary Support - silly me [Re: 1004SRS]
Dee78 Offline
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Registered: 06/02/05
Posts: 11820
Loc: TN
You just do, it's always in the back of your mind. For instance, ex went 20 months without paying a dime, I still had to fill my tank twice a month to meet halfway. It was frustrating but I tried to keep the issues separate.

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#172484 - 12/11/06 07:56 PM Re: Temporary Support - silly me [Re: Dee78]
myangels Offline
Pooh-Bah

Registered: 11/07/05
Posts: 1982
I agree, never trust the X with just words..

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