I am in Ohio and in process of divorce. Re: pensions... a QDRO (qualified domestic relations order) is done by a company. It is my understanding it takes the total months in the marriage, or uses a date the court deteremines, gets the total of the pension earned during those months and calculates from that how much of hte pension I am entitled to. The cost here for that is 350.00 and well worth it to me. Long term marriage so I have a lot of vested amount in the pension and that 350.00 and my attorney fees toward that part of the settlement are well worth the cost.
In my case, I would probably have lost out on marital assets if I had gone the mediator route.
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