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#24857 - 08/05/05 05:59 AM ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan
Worriedsinglemom Offline
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Okay, so I was wondering... If you know that there is going to be a battle with the parenting plan but you both want a divorce and your waiting period is up.... Can you ask the court to sign the divorce and you can continue to battle the parenting issues? I go to court in the morning and I would like to be released of him.... I will sit and battle the parenting as long as he keeps pulling his crap.

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#24858 - 08/05/05 02:33 PM Re: ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan [Re: Worriedsinglemom]
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Does he want something completely unreasonable? I don't know how you feel about it but if it were me, I'm so sick of mine that unless he wants a majority or complete custody, I'd agree to just about anything.

If he's a decent father and wants his "fair share" of time, let him have it. It would mean a break for you and then the court doesn't have to decide for you. From what I know of the court system, if you have to have the court decide, it may take longer and you probably won't get what you want.

Or is support the problem? Again, with me, I'm going to have to figure out how to do it with no help. I'd rather cut all ties and have nothing than stick around and be "secure" financially.

Good luck!

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#24859 - 08/05/05 02:45 PM Re: ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan [Re: goldilox]
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Well, he doesnt pay child support even thought there is a court order and he is not involved in here life at all. In the past he did drugs like cocane. He responded in court and lied out his ass. Saying I refused visitation even though he was the one that would call and cancel at the last minute. The case is here in Washington and today I am walking into court and handing over relocation papers to Cali. I know I may have to pay visitation costs... But at that point I will request that they adjust child support for the costs because he is back $7000 ...

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#24860 - 08/05/05 02:53 PM Re: ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan [Re: Worriedsinglemom]
goldilox Offline
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You can have him arrested for back child support, at least in MI, I don't know about WA.

Because of the lies, I wouldn't even try to bring up past drug charges. I would just try to document all the times he calls and cancels. Write down time and date and as much of conversation as possible. Mine, I had a protective order against because he threatened to take our son over the phone, and he hired a former district attorney and had the charges dropped by lying. By the time all was said and done, my record looked like I was the violent one and not the other way around.

Document everything. If he isn't involved, he's just trying to make your life more miserable than it already is. The more these type of people realize they are losing control over you, the more they cause trouble.

I hope your court session goes well for you.
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#24861 - 08/05/05 02:54 PM Re: ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan [Re: goldilox]
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Of course, with the drugs, if you are clean and his history is less than five years old, you could have a hair sample test. He might leave you alone if that's staring him in the face.
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#24862 - 08/05/05 07:00 PM Re: ? on Divorce and Parenting Plan [Re: goldilox]
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Well, I just got back in from court. He didnt show.... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> He responded to the divorce and the parenting plan but did not serve it to me or my attorney. They struck it from the docket. After all I did he vacated the default the day before the divorce was final. Then he didnt even show to respond to it. I cant believe it. I gave my attorney my new contact info and she is filing my relocation paper work. Told me to go ahead and start my new job and I dont need to worry about coming back for court because she will handle it. So.... Any comments would be appreciated as to what you think the court will do in this case? I look at it as he is wasting EVERYONES time. All I want to be is divorced but since all these little things keep coming up in the case I havent been able to get that signed off. Stupid thing was I didnt even ask today.

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#24863 - 08/05/05 07:02 PM so what does it mean [Re: Worriedsinglemom]
Melody Offline
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they continue it on a new date? Or...do they make it final since he failed to show up?

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#24864 - 08/05/05 07:04 PM Re: so what does it mean [Re: Melody]
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My attorney said that nothing is on the docket now. SHe will file the relocation and be back in court in about two weeks. If he doest respond then we file final. That was the way I took the conversation today. They didnt continue because he didnt show. She was going to ask them to continue if he had.

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#24865 - 08/09/05 07:17 PM Re: so what does it mean [Re: Worriedsinglemom]
goldilox Offline
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So it sounds like you have to wait two weeks more for his not responding and then it's final? Hopefully?
If so, yeah, it's a little longer but they can't drag it on indefinitely. I sure hope not!
Hang in there!
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