"I had a concern that since her last name was my stbx's last name that she'd try to give THAT last name to the new child. THAT would be a no-no, wouldn't it? I mean, I guess it's "legal" but morally that'd just be super super super tacky no?"
I STRONGLY disagree w/ you.. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
When I married; his name BECAME mine for better for worse.. until death... It is MY name. It has been my name for most of my life. If I have a child, I will give it MY name.
The fact that it is also his name; is just a coincidence at this point. Just like the two Smiths in my son's class this year aren't related. This child would not be related to that branch..
Yes, some might think that everyone was related because in my case, it is a pretty unique name.. BUT be it what it may... IT is MY name! If he doesn't like it; he can legally change his name.. BUT this is my name, my children's name, my family name..
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. --Plato