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#259352 - 07/23/07 06:12 PM What to include in decree ....
Lotsoflight Offline
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Registered: 07/02/07
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What were the most valuable things you or your lawyer included in your divorce decree, custodial agreement or financial agreement? Things like splitting the cost of college, requesting a copy of his/her W2 yearly, etc.

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#259353 - 07/23/07 06:55 PM Re: What to include in decree .... [Re: Lotsoflight]
Sherron Offline
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Registered: 11/25/06
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- making sure to address not just medical, but dental, orthodontal, psychological, psychiatric, and any other necessary wellness services for the children.
- I wish I had right of first refusal as well.
- that my ex was going to pay for my lawyer (the d. was his fault, but he refused to go ahead with the divorce, so I did, but I figured his fault, he can pay. He never did, and my lawyer tried to come after me. I told him the judge signed off that he was to pay. The lawyer says, no, you pay, and he reimburses you. I said read again...it says HE PAYS, not he reimburses... that wording let me off the hook...)
- children spend father's day with dad, mother's day with mom, regardless of who's weekend it is.
- have to look, it's been a while, so I am not sure what other goodies are in there.

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#259354 - 07/24/07 11:17 PM Re: What to include in decree .... [Re: Lotsoflight]
Goodmom Offline
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Registered: 06/17/07
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What were the most valuable things you or your lawyer included in your divorce decree, custodial agreement or financial agreement? Things like splitting the cost of college, requesting a copy of his/her W2 yearly, etc.


Here is what mine has:

-child support continues through college and is in addition to college costs.
-college is split based on our incomes and after scholarships, grants and student loans have been exhausted.
-extracurricular activities (and I have them specifically spelled out) are split based on our incomes.
-who got what in the divorce. Basically, he got his 401K and I got the house and all of the debt.
-life insurance, I am to remain the primary beneficiary on his policy and he is to remain my primary beneficiary on my policy.
-health insurance, dental insurance and who provides it. And how the premiums are split
-medical costs (including dental, braces for both medical and cosmetic reasons, etc.) is split based on our incomes after the $250 per child per year has been met (this is in child support guidelines for my state).
-He had to long to sign a quitclaim to the house to me. One thing to keep in mind, if a quitclaim isn't signed AND filed in a certain period of time, there may be a hefty tax as a result. You may want to address who pays (should be the person who is dragging his/her feet) this if the deadline isn't met.
-his inexperienced attorney basically said I didn't have to refinance. I did anyway. I suggest a time limit on the refinance.
-The tax exemptions for the kids and how it is handled. I got both through emancipation. Judges typically alternate if one child, split if more than one.
-alimony is permanently waived by both parties.
-custody
-visitation/parenting time. I don't recommend what is in my court order. Mine says "as mutually agreed upon by both parties". This is working for ex and I. But, from what I have read on message boards, this would not work for everyone. I suggest something specifically spelled out. If my arrangement ever stops working, we are going to get something specifically spelled out.
Your best bet is to sit down and write a list of what you would like addressed in the divorce. Because it is expensive to go back and address issues.

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