What were the most valuable things you or your lawyer included in your divorce decree, custodial agreement or financial agreement? Things like splitting the cost of college, requesting a copy of his/her W2 yearly, etc.
Here is what mine has:
-child support continues through college and is in addition to college costs.
-college is split based on our incomes and after scholarships, grants and student loans have been exhausted.
-extracurricular activities (and I have them specifically spelled out) are split based on our incomes.
-who got what in the divorce. Basically, he got his 401K and I got the house and all of the debt.
-life insurance, I am to remain the primary beneficiary on his policy and he is to remain my primary beneficiary on my policy.
-health insurance, dental insurance and who provides it. And how the premiums are split
-medical costs (including dental, braces for both medical and cosmetic reasons, etc.) is split based on our incomes after the $250 per child per year has been met (this is in child support guidelines for my state).
-He had to long to sign a quitclaim to the house to me. One thing to keep in mind, if a quitclaim isn't signed AND filed in a certain period of time, there may be a hefty tax as a result. You may want to address who pays (should be the person who is dragging his/her feet) this if the deadline isn't met.
-his inexperienced attorney basically said I didn't have to refinance. I did anyway. I suggest a time limit on the refinance.
-The tax exemptions for the kids and how it is handled. I got both through emancipation. Judges typically alternate if one child, split if more than one.
-alimony is permanently waived by both parties.
-visitation/parenting time. I don't recommend what is in my court order. Mine says "as mutually agreed upon by both parties". This is working for ex and I. But, from what I have read on message boards, this would not work for everyone. I suggest something specifically spelled out. If my arrangement ever stops working, we are going to get something specifically spelled out.
Your best bet is to sit down and write a list of what you would like addressed in the divorce. Because it is expensive to go back and address issues.