"We have been seperated for over a year & 1/2. Can it be stated in the M-clause that the children are not even allowed to meet bf/gf or is it limited to overnights by law? The fact that the gf let the child drive, failed drug tests, etc.. nothing like that in this case. Just a lot of hostility. "
Is there any reason other than hostility that you want to add the clause? Who is the hostility between? You and stbx, you and gf, the kids and gf? Would it be affective only until the divorce is final? If it would be in the permenant order is it fair to say the kids could "never" meet a bf/gf? The problem with that is if one parent is in a serious relationship doesn't it stand to reason that you'd want to make sure all parties get along before moving forward? I'm not so much opposed to morality clauses as I am to the idea that one person wants to control what the other can do. I realize you may not want your children being brought up in a way to think that it's okay to cohabitate before marriage but as time goes on they will find out that there are people who do that. You can instill your views on what they should do but you really shouldn't be able to tell anyone else what to do. If you are talking about until the divorce is final then I agree it should be added for now.
When we were together, you said you'd die for me. Now, I think it's time you kept your promise.