Today was conf to discuss outstanding TRO i have against STBXW. Judge ruled no need for a TRO as he granted me exclusive use of house. That was the only thing he gave me. Ordered $300/wk SS even though she has access and free use of a credit card in my name only (she's a named user on account). While i don't argue the amount, he basically gave her that with no restriction on cc use. She is an admitted alcoholic which the judge told me only means i'll be paying for her medical coverage "for years" - she decided to quit a 50K yr job she had held for 25 years 5 yrs ago to "stay home with the kids". At that time, kids were 11 and 15. He told me i can't spend a penny of a 5k bonus i just received and can't spend a penny of the anticipated 6k tax refund. When i asked how was i going to pay all the bills (which he strongly instructed me i must) he had no response.
I expected the judge to "set some expectations" and i understand and support an equitable distribution, but with the allegations her atty is throwing (PAS not the least since my 15 year old has elected to stay with me) this is ugly early. I mentioned tuition payments and judge just laughed them off - i know they are moral, not legal, responsibilities, but i thought he would at least raise that point so STBX would consider maybe that needs to be a part of our larger discussion.
Let's just say, i left thinking i have no chance to even get 50% of anything. With her atty smelling blood, how can i even get my STBX to have a civil conversation about what should be a fair resolution?