What are the legal implications of my husband's using pot in divorce or separation situations, or in the case that I choose to remain with him if he gets help? I believe he is addicted (no, I don't subscribe to the school of thought that pot is not addictive). Why? Because he can't go for more than 48 hours without it. Because he leaves and doesn't spend time with me and our baby in order to go smoke it. Because he defends his right to smoke it as if he were defending his own mother from a murderer. Because he couldn't quit if he wanted to.
We have a 5-month-old baby. I asked him to quit smoking both cigarettes and pot when we first met and he promised he would "eventually". We had a surprise pregnancy and I asked him to quit again. He said he would. He never even cut back even though. I trusted he would before the baby came. He still hasn't and thinks the government is bringing pot and drugs into this country in order to "keep people down". (So, what if they are, that's all the more reason not to participate by smoking the stupid stuff. He is seriously delusional about pot and makes all the tired, hippy-dippy arguments about why it's really OK and "never hurt anyone" (uh, yeah, right) and isn't addictive.
Enough explanation. He has me so harried and harrassed by his meanness and cruelty when he's NOT high (BECAUSE he's not high) and his not helping around the house that I am not thinking straight. Our baby wakes up in the middle of the night and guess who looks after her all night -- the responsible one (that would be me). So I am exhausted and basically without a partner. He doesn't smoke it in our house, but he goes to bis buddy's house to do it and I think he has it somewhere in his car and goes off driving to smoke it sometimes. :mad:
So, I think I am going to ask him to leave the household and establish separation agreement with counseling and if that doesn't work I'll proceed with divorce before our baby is old enough to have it scar her emotionally. The way things are going, I doubt any of this will work but I have to know I did everything in my power to make it work before filing for the big D.
Bidden or not bidden, God is present.