If you've seen any of my posts you know that i say i want what's best for my children (actually, i want what's best for all of us, including my STBX, if possible, but realize most won't believe that).
That said, i just rec'd a call from STB who is rejecting the mediation proposal (i discussed with her and she said she was open to it; i did the research and sent her some names and some information on the process; she said she would call and i was comfortable leaving the final decision of "who" up to her).
So now i'm convinced what i thought initially is accurate: either her atty is playing her or she just wants to make this ugly.
Here's my dilemma: she tells her family everything (true or, often, fabricated); i have kept our private life private. Sure, my family and friends have "caught on" to her alcoholism over the years, but i have never told the full story so their perception is diminished; she, however, embellishes. The only people "on my side" with a true understanding of what has transpired are our kids.
I pushed for mediation to keep them out of it. Now, if i go to court it's "all of them" (her family) with her version against me with no witnesses to support the true story; if i bring my kids into it, i feel i'm using them; if i don't, i lose.
How do i protect myself and, at the same time, keep the kids out of it when my only "evidence" is them?