This is very good advice and I sincerely appreciate all of it. Firstly, the 2,500 monthly was based on a management position I held at a nightclub. The owner was overpaying everyone and he liked me. They eventually closed down...that's when I moved to Chicago in hopes that I could better provide for my family (and to get away from the hostility AND to be there for my son's birth, more long stories). My present state of unemployment is because the restaurant I was bartending for closed down as well (it has nothing to do with me!). This is the nature of the business. Making $2500 monthly in hospitality, used to be no problem for a younger version of me...now its murder on the feet and a bit embarrassing (considering I'm going to be 40). I'm just one of those people that always thought the options and potential to do what I wanted were endless (and they were) but I just couldn't make up my mind. Finally, a path is becoming clearer...I'll be in my early forties but, providing for my family and, most importantly, accomplishing what I set out to do.
Secondly, I claimed bankruptcy last year because of the enormous amount of credit card debt I incurred trying to keep up with my payments. Can I use this as some kind of defense...I wonder? Anyway, I dug a large hole for myself because of my inability to find my purpose. My children are amazingly adaptive and I have worked diligently to mitigate any sadness and loss they may feel...I video chat with my daughter 4-5 days a week...I play with my son everyday...I help with my daughters homework...I brush my son's teeth...I do all and more, what a father should. I will get out of this hole I just need a little help getting started.
Secondly...of course I intend to pay for the flight expenses...that was never in question. What is...is that I don't want to continue to shell out more money than I need to, considering that ultimately, it's taking away from things I could be doing with my daughter. Again...if I were to approach (just) this matter through court, would she be allowed to address the support issue then?
Thanks for the advice, Joe