We were married 20 years, with 16 and 4 yr old boys
have filed uncontested divorce, I let her have everything, except $50,000 out of $500,000 in home equity (under contract to be sold), $230,000 in 401K, $150,000 in savings, wanted her to have everything for our kids and she be set for life. final court date is fast approaching and I find out she was/is having an affair
Now I change my mind and want half of everything except for savings account. I do not want a messy or drag this thing out for sake of kids and my sanity, she agrees to split half and also do not want to drag it out and she will sign and notarize a promisary note.
any advice is appreciated