"I think a bonus is different, because he definitly *HAD* the money. He just choose not to pay her with it. He spent it on something else and doesn't have it anymore."
Doesn't make a difference in my state. When ex works and doesn't pay cs, he *HAD* the money and chose not to pay cs. CSE decides how much a month he is supposed to pay on arrears, and if he calls them and says that's too high, they'll drop it lower yet. Doesn't matter at this point to him, he's not paying on arrears or current, so he doesn't care if the arrears payment is set too high, but that's the way CSE has handled it in the past. Not saying NH will handle it that way, but it apparently IS an option in some states. Yeah, he fvcked up, should have paid it when he had it, shame on him for not doing so. Unless anyone can borrow him their time machine, he can't undo it.