I am going through a divorce in Michigan,my wife left in October2005 she filed the next day. She filed on the grounds of irreconcible differences,there was no infidelity,drunkenness[I do not drink] no drugs,no wife beating,she simply said I was not affectionate enough.
I am a business owner I owned the business before we were married 7 years ago,she has a FT job and also has a pension and 401k and profit sharing at her job. She has left and moved in with her adult kids 3 times prior to this,she always claimed I was not loving enough. We argued like most couples do from time to time.,but she liked to hit below the belt and consequently I mistakenly would come back and start cussing her out. I never would just come home and start a fight with her.
She on the other hand has hit me many times,destroyed my home office after following me around our house all night long wanting to argue,then when I would say "I have to go get a room for the night because I have to get some sleep" she would flip out and beg me not to leave her,when I would stay and try to go get some sleep she would start in on me all over again. These crazy bizarre arguments went on until 6 am in the morning sometimes. The first year of marriage I had to get a motel room 13 times. She has followed me in her brand new van I bought her and started bumping into the back of my new truck with hers trying to stop me from leaving for the night. Well this went on until about the 5th year in marriage and after 3 separations where she moved in with her kids and then we got marriage counseling and it pretty much stopped. She didn't act like this for the last 2 years.Sorry for rambling on and on.Now this is a person who is very religious and if you met her you would never guess she acted like this in a million years.
When she decided to move out this past year she left while I was at work when I came home I found a note and that she had taken all the furniture upstairs bedroom set dressers ect and a room full of living room stuff from upstairs as well as a company computer and my two dogs and two cats,I managed to get my dogs back.
Anyhow she filed for divorce and did not hire an attorney and she kept telling me I didn't need one either, I talked to my Attorney and he said other wise so I retained my attorney,when we went to court in December she didn't know I was going to want 50% of her 401k and her pension and profit sharing,she basically dumped all the bills on me as usual and now she wants half the equity and is trying to force me into selling our condo. I do not want to sell it because I love it here,she moved into her son,s condo and what's interesting is he lives in California and could not afford his condo here and the place he has in CA and she moved right into his condo the day she left me,she has always done this before too,whenever her adult kids had any kind of financial crisis she would find a reason to move out and move in with one of them,like I said she did this 3 times.Now she has an Attorney and is trying to get alimony,half of my condo equity [there isn't much equity left she may get perhaps $2000.00 if that] We have to go back to court in April hopefully to finalize the divorce,at first I was still willing to work on this sick marriage but I,m not anymore enough is enough.I talked with my Attorney about a QRRO and he is filing those papers. She does not want me to touch her 401k or pension and profit sharing,but I feel I took care of her and her adult kids [her kids for 4 years and her for 7 years]there are property taxes owed and a tax return from 2004 owed and I am paying these items and she doesn't want to pay anything,she wants to walk off into the sunset like nothing happened. I don't think its fair at all. Thank God we didn't have any of our own children that's all I can say.