I've been separated almost a year. My ex has a long history of depression and had a nervous breakdown several months after our separation (for which she was hospitalized.) We have three young children and have agreed on joint custody. We are in mediation, but have not seen the mediator since before the breakdown. I was told that the mediator may not be willing (or able?) to continue due to a question of my ex's "competence," so I asked my ex to share that information with the mediator so we will know if continuing that way is even possible. However, ex is unwilling to let the mediator know and says there is "no reason she should have to." (And I don't think I should be the one to disclose that.) Ex has shared very little with me about her diagnosis other than "depression." As a father, I am concerned for my children due to a couple near-relapses since her first breakdown. I don't believe she would ever intentionally hurt the kids, witnessing a breakdown could be very damaging in my opinion. Does the breakdown HAVE to be disclosed at some point (mediator, court, attorney) in the process? Or is Massachusetts so backwards that a personís personal privacy trumps the potential welfare of the children? Any feedback, advice, or information would be GREATLY appreciated!