I am not sure where else to post this.
I pay for all of the children's medical expenses, ex pays for insurance. He refused to give me the EOB's (Explanation of Benefits), but the court ordered him to. When I was given the online access to the EOB's through the insurance website I see why he would not give me access before. Each EOB page shows that he was reimbursed for the amount of money I paid for the co-pays, bills, etc... So when I pay a bill, he was getting the EOB, submitted it to his Flex and getting the money back. I understand that he puts the money in to Flex, but he is getting a tax free withdrawal from that Flex account for monies that I paid. Does that seem legit? I have paid out over $800 of my own money this year so far.