My wife and I have been in an unhappy marriage for a while. Talking does nothing. I got to the point that I just didn't know what to do anymore and said that I thought we should divorce. 4 days later she had sex with the guy she cheated on me with 6 years earlier. A week later, we had a nice talk and questioned everything and had sex. She told me about 6 hours later about the sex with the other man a week earlier.
We've been talking and wondering if we can save this anyway, and the entire time we've been talking, she's been texting and meeting up with a different guy she met on tinder. Yesterday, we were having a good conversation all day through text,when she abruptly ended our conversation and said she'd be home in an hour. 4.5 hours later she came home, had clearly had a few drinks and was looking very annoyed that I was waiting for her but I asked what happened and said I was worried about her because she wouldn't answer phone calls or texts.
She said she was out with a "friend". I asked who and she said that I didn't know them. I asked why she was being secretive and she said that she has a ton of friends I don't know because I never would go anywhere with her.
Anyway, she was very defensive and it took an hour, but she finally admitted she was with the guy from tinder, but it wasn't a date. She insists they're just friends and they talk about our divorce.
So I looked at the cell phone data log. They've talked non stop since 7 days ago when they met, and sometimes at 3am. They text first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
I also asked what they did for 4.5 hours. They met at a restaurant, had drinks, then went for a drive in his car, then parked up on our version of "look out point" as the sun set. That doesn't sound like anything but a date to me, but she insists that it wasn't.
Anyway, all of that was going on the last 2 days we were talking about saving our marriage.
So what do you think? She's not serious about wanting us to work at all? She's telling the truth about the tinder guy? She's just covering her bases in case we don't work out? She's toying with me for asking for a divorce? What are your thoughts?
What are your thoughts about the tinder guy?
What are your thoughts on someone having sex after 4 days and then having sex with me a week later but not telling me about the other guy until after?