I live in a very similar situation... with 2 differences. I married the love of my life (long story... we were High School sweethearts but went our separate ways and married others, divorced and are now married) He has to pay alimony to his ex fatness/laziness as well, but his is permanent with no end date. Which means it's paid until she remarries or upon her death. It is very frustrating and it makes you very angry at the system. He works very hard at a very dangerous job, while she sits on her fat butt and just gets a check every month for doing nothing. She travels and has gatherings which she pays for with the money that we earn and pay her. Yes I'm bitter about this. Our society has created a monster call entitlement! I knew about all of this when I entered into the marriage, so I knew what I was getting myself into. It does cause me to feel resentful and angry, but not at him at her. You have to make some hard decisions about this relationship. Is this something you can live with long term? If not, then cut the ties now! I wish you lots of luck, there is not an easy or pleasant answer for this situation.