Hi. I am looking for some advice. I have been involved in a relationship for several years now -- both of us divorced with kids from our previous relationships. My bf's ex has always been an issue. I think she is mentally ill. She has limited placement of the kids, but does see and communicate with them. I think she may be psychologically abusing and trying to manipulate her kids. We moved in together a couple of years ago and things escalated with crazy emails and texts, accusations, twisted truths (where it has a bit of truth within a big lie or exaggeration), calls to child services, the police, the schools, etc. When we moved in, she also included myself and my children in on the fun -- it has been a nightmare. Two years later, it has not stopped and is possibly even worse. I have now moved out with my kids to keep them (and me) safe and hopefully get us away from the psychological turmoil. My bf is upset and feels that she has "won" and that I have abandoned him and his kids. He feels like I have financially hurt us, not living together and sharing expenses and responsibilities. He has tried to reassure me that the authorities, schools, etc. all know that she is crazy -- but that still does not alleviate my feelings of fear and despair as even the emails and communications she sends are so destructive. Not to mention that I don't know what goes on when she has placement/communicaton with her kids. I feel AWFUL and terribly guilty, but do not think it was helping to have us all under the same roof -- just seemed to add additional people for her to target. My bf is a great person and I love his kids, but am honestly starting to become afraid of them as well as they are heavily influenced by their mother who talks to them in private (we are not allowed in the room as per her request that is followed by my bf) on a regular basis. Did I do the right thing? Am I a terrible person for just giving up on this? Was there another option that I just cannot see? Do you think she will continue to terrorize my kids and me or will this stop it? Ugh. It's not been fun and I have started to have panic attacks. I think my child has, as well (panic attacks). I just don't know what else to do. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Edited by SLB17 (01/12/17 01:26 AM)